Learning About Myself

I started my evening routine of making and enjoying a cup of tea the same as I always do-I know, how Grandma of me-but this time, as I looked at the little message printed on the side of the tab on my tea bag, I paused. The words “When was the last time you did something for the first time?” stared back at me, and it made wonder, when was the last time? The question haunted me the whole time I sat drinking my tea. Not because I couldn’t remember the last time, but because how long ago could it have been if I can’t remember it?

Trying new things should be something that is incorporated into every day life. I was always the sibling that was curious, the one who would stumble along after my older brother wanting to do everything that he did. I had no fear, not of failure, not of getting hurt. In my young years I was driven purely by my curiosity-well, and partly the fact that I wanted my brother and his friends to think I was the “cool” little sister-and it kind of disappoints me that I am no longer this curious.

A crucial part of growing up is figuring out who you are as a person. What you like, what you don’t, who you like and don’t, and in my 23 years on this planet, I have certainly developed a sense of self. But, as human beings, our interests and our selves, change on the daily basis, and because of this our self exploration is a lifelong process.

Because of this one little tea bag, I will be taking the time out each day to try something new and in doing so, hope to learn a little bit more about myself. I hope that you will all do the same.

Goodnight ❤

XOXO K

23 Things I Learned by 23

Yes, I totally am writing that cliched post about everything I’ve learned by my age. About two months ago I celebrated my 23rd birthday-fellow Bulls where you at?- and I honestly believe that the growth that I have experienced in the past year is greater than any year before. As I begin my 24th journey around the sun, these are some things I will keep in mind. So here it goes, my list of 23 things I’ve learned by 23!

Be yourself 

That old saying, be yourself cause everyone else is already taken, yeah it really is one of the best things to live by.

Stand up for what you believe in

Your opinions will never be the same as everyone else’s, but as long as you know you have a voice, you will feel a lot less alone.

Admit when you’re wrong

You are not always right, admitting that is one of the first steps to happiness.

Don’t be a pushover

Don’t let people walk all over you, everyone but yourself will be happy.

Dye your damn hair

Or get that tattoo or piercing. Bottom line is, it’s your body, do with it what you please. *Sidenote, you can always dye it back….

Let loose sometimes

Have a second drink, or a 10th, whatever. Yes you’ll be hungover in the morning, but you’ll remember the night for the rest of your life.

Mom really does know best

I hate to admit it, but moms really do know what they are talking about.

Take more pictures

Or let people take pictures of you. You’ll regret it in a few years when you wished you had captured the moment.

Keep in touch with your family

Your family really is your biggest support system, and you are going to wish you had spent more time with them later on in life.

Realize who your true friends are

Not everyone of your “friends” really cares about you as much as you think they do. Find out who the true ones are before you regret it.

Take a break from Social Media

Sounds funny from someone who writes a blog, but really, take a break from Facebook and Instagram, even if its only for a day.

Don’t settle

Be selfish when it comes to your own happiness.

Make decisions for yourself

This goes along with the one above. Don’t do anything unless it is exactly what you want to do.

Eat lunch alone

Go to Panera or that coffee shop by yourself. Learn to be okay with being independent.

Don’t hold grudges

It will only make you miserable.

You can’t change others

No matter how hard you try, you can’t change anyone but yourself.

Nobody knows what they are doing

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life is that adulthood is a crapshoot. No one, I repeat, NO ONE knows what they are doing.

Be curious

Question everything! Always. Never lose your curiosity.

Save as much money as you can

This is something I wish I had learned a little earlier. Save money now, and enjoy your life later on.

Live in the now

Don’t worry about the future yet, everything will figure itself out eventually, but you will never get this exact moment back.

Put yourself first

You need to look out for yourself, because at the end of the day, you are the only one who will. So don’t be afraid to say you need a day off to watch YouTube. Your own happiness and sanity must come before anyone else’s.

Be kind

This is something we were taught when we were little kids. Don’t let a world that is so far from kind, make you hardened to the point that your kindness diminishes.

Say thank you

If someone helps you, thank hem for it. There is nothing better than having someone show their gratitude for your help.

XOXO, K

Long time no write

Hello loves!

It’s been a while. Almost two months actually, which is crazy that it has been two months when in reality it only feels like it’s been two days. My life has been a bit of a whirlwind since I last wrote. I started a new job, one that I’m not absolutely thrilled about yet, and my dog has been going through a phase where if she doesn’t get enough exercise (which to her is like 10 hours) she wont let me sleep at night. Which is hard with the new job and all. Such small problems, in the grand scheme of things, that I find myself thinking come on Kate, so what you’re tired and pup is driving you mental, people are dying, at least 20 times a day.

I digress.

In short, I will be trying my damnedest to figure out a posting schedule, and keep to that. But for now, my 10 month old German Shepherd is currently trying to climb into my lap, and it is getting harder and harder to type, so I wrap it up here.

Until next time my friends!

XOXO, K

New Beginnings

Have you ever done something, something that you weren’t sure was a good idea but did it anyway because it was something that you had your mind set on for a very long time? I’m not talking about getting that tattoo you wanted, or texting the person you have a crush on for the first time. I’m talking potentially life changing things, the things that you speak to your dark bedroom when you’re trying to fall asleep, the things you hold closest to your hearts, the ones that you are afraid to admit even to yourself that you want because what if that makes it not happen? Yeah, those things. Everyone has one, something that makes them tick, something that makes them want to wake up in the morning and work towards. Well, I started mine the other day.

It was a rainy, boring Sunday. The kind that you spend laying in bed cuddled up to your dog watching YouTube videos because you don’t want to face the world. That was me, and as I sat there, watching people who made a living making vlogs about their lives, I wondered if they can do that, than why can’t I do what I want? Now, I’m not going to say what exactly it is, but it is something I will be working on for a very long time. If it doesn’t pan out like I hoped all those years, then I can chalk it up to experience and try something different next time. But if it does work, it will validate any ‘what if’ I ever had in my life.

So I guess what I meant for this post was really just to encourage anyone who is thinking about doing something, whether it be starting their own business or making a YouTube channel, go for it. I’ve recently come to realize that life is way to short to be sitting on a great idea or plan that you have for yourself because you are too scared to try.

XOXO, K

March Thoughts

March 31st. Holy crap! Saying it out loud really drives home the fact that we’re already 1/4 of the way through 2017, and it is scary beyond belief. I often wonder how it is that I got to be here in my life. Like what led me to this point? Was it every single decision that I made? Or was it just the big ones? I kind of find it hard to believe that the blueberry scone I chose over the bagel at breakfast that one time in 2007 would have a lasting impact on my life, but who knows, maybe it did. What if we are born with a million different pathways, and each and every decision, tiny or huge, sends us down a certain pathway and completely changes the person we become? Thoughts like these are what keep me up at night, because if thats the case, no matter what, our futures are already laid out for us, like fate knows and even when we are trying to be spontaneous we can’t be.

The bona fide nature of these fates discourage me, makes me question what the damn point is? But it’s in times of these questioning that you need to ask yourself ‘Who cares what the point is?’ and ‘Do you care?’. Like are you going to let the fact that your future could possibly be mapped out for you regardless of what you do stop you from doing everything you want? Or, are you going to treat each day like a new adventure, seeing the good, and not letting the bad stop you?

So as March comes to a close, I am going to set a new goal for myself. That goal is to see the good, to find it even when it seems impossible. To live each day like I’ve never experienced life before. I hope that this allows me to see 2017 as a gift, and to experience life as I never have before, and I hope that everyone else reading this does the same.

Until next time,

XOXO, K

My Purpose

 

Since I was little, I always told stories. I was always the one who wanted to wow my family with an awesome story about a dog I saw the other day, or a really great day I had with my best friend. I would go on and on, putting so much detail into these little stories that everyone listening felt like they were petting the dog’s downy fur or licking sticky vanilla ice cream off their own hand while sitting on Bestie’s rough, checkered couch (favorite couch ever). I had a knack for it, so much so that I would literally spend all of my experiences planning how I was going to tell the story later on.

I’ve kept this love of story telling throughout my childhood and early adulthood, nourished it and grew it into something that I cherish, something that lets me express myself in ways that I could never imagine while speaking words. Writing just works better for me, it always has.

So when I started my final semester of college in January of 2016, I contacted the Odyssey branch for my school. I was chosen as a contributor, and was publishing articles every week, on this online community for college students to write. While there, I published 8 articles a few of which are still gaining shares on social media platforms. For the first time, I had a real place for my writing to be shared, for people to be able to read it. For the first time, I really had a voice.

This opportunity ended when I graduated last May, and since then I have been writing in journals and on my laptop, but nothing as substantial as that website. Truth is, I miss the feeling of being able to get my voice out there. So, here I am, starting a blog, something I have wanted to do for a long time, in the hopes that people can find something in my writing. That anyone who is struggling, or shares my views on certain things, or just wants confirmation that they are not the only one struggling with this odd transition from college degenerate to “functioning” adult, can read my posts and realize that they have a friend in me (cheesy I know).

So, stay tuned while I try to figure this out, and bear with me, because I will probably mess something up a few times along the way. Until next time!

XOXO K